Male Karen Berates Son-In Law For Tipping at a Restaurant

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    Font - AITA for tipping and embarrassing my boomer FIL. Not the A-hole I worked as a server in university and my daughter worked at Starbucks and a local restaurant when she was in school. I know how servers earn their money.
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    Font - My FIL invited us out for supper for my MIL's birthday. We went to a nice Greek restaurant in his neighborhood. The meal was fantastic and my FIL said it was on him. Cool my kids are well behaved and know not to go crazy on their grandparents' money. I have known my in-laws for almost twenty years now. I know he doesn't tip. So I always bring cash and tip whenever we dine out with them.
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    Font - So after the meal as we were leaving I checked the bill and dropped 20% on top of his cash. More or less. I guess he accidentally left too much money once and made a big deal about getting his change because the server came running out with the tip I left.
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    Font - My FIL knew how he paid and it didn't include a fifty dollar bill. He blew his top. Saying I disrespected him by doing this I was implying that he was cheap after he took out my family to a nice restaurant. I was just trying to do right by the server. I wasn't trying to be a hero or a jerk. I just know that we took up a table for almost two hours and she deserved a tip.
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    Font - My wife is mad at me for upsetting her father. My daughter gave me a hug and said I was right. Aita?
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    Font - Edit I'm in Canada. Apparently this is a normal thing in the States.
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    Font - Fuzzy-Constant 21h Certified Proctologist [24] I'm pretty sure there was a Friends episode where this happened. NTA. Your FIL is an AH. Reply 4.3k ... +
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    Font - Information Primary31 OP 21h ● LoL. I haven't watched that in years. I'll have to find it and show my wife. + ← 1.1k
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    Rectangle - InformationPrimary31 OP 21h a Yeah. I worked at a texmex restaurant with for a logo. Not proud of what I did to regulars who didn't tip. + 4682
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    Font - Relevant-Ad6288 • 19h Thank god for restaurants that don't have cameras recording BOH crap lol. Worked at in college...was a blast. Cheesecake recorded everything so no such fun. But seriously, NTA. I can't count how many guests tipped me behind their boomer relatives backs. Or to their face. Either way, lifesavers because stingy old fashioned ways don't pay rent. + 459
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    Font - jessikill. 21h Asshole Aficionado [11] NTA. In the future, it may be better to say something like "since you covered dinner, I thought I would cover the tip" - even if he's resistant to tipping (AH), at least the point of the gesture was in the ether. + Reply 1.5k
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    Font - formidable-opponent. 18h This is the way. My parents also are older, tip poorly, say "it's their choice to work this job, if they want better pay they should get a better job", and then whine and say "no one wants to work!" when restaurants are short staffed. My dad once asked a waiter to knock some money off the bill because it rained while we were seated outside. Yes, seriously.
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    Font - Anyways, I will generally leave some cash on the table as well but in order to avoid the exact situation that happened to OP... I just slip it under my dinner plate with a little portion of it peaking out so they're sure to find it as they clear the table. Also, the only reason FIL is going off about her insinuating he's cheap is because her action made him feel like a cheap AH.
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    Font - jessikill. 18h Asshole Aficionado [11] once tipped out our server when I met my dad's GF because my dad's GF was HORRIFIC to her. They tipped $5 because of a kitchen issue. I was 17, made a little money at my McDonald's job, and gave that server $50 on a $75 bill because I was MORTIFIED by my dad's GF's behaviour. My soul still has not returned from that experience. + 4221
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    Font - Basic_Bichette 19h Asshole Aficionado [19] OP'S FIL sounds like my parents, also Canadian. They would step up and try to wrest the tip from my hand, scream at me afterward, and refuse to go to a restaurant or order in if it meant giving a tip. They considered tipping nearly Satanically evil. I had to tell them "look; do you ever wonder why your service is so bad? Why your pizza doesn't arrive for an hour? Why your Chinese food arrives ice cold? They know you don't tip and don't give a dam
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    Font - Lux_Brumalis 21h Certified Proctologist [24] NTA! I served and bartended all through undergrad, and not getting tipped was such a horrible feeling (both personally, and also, financially). Your father in law is a cheap jerk who frankly shouldn't go out to eat if he refuses to pay the full cost of the meal - the full cost, of course, being the bill plus the tip. For people who are anti-tipping: please keep in mind that if the servers were paid enough to render tipping obsolete, your meal w
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    Font - My_Panache. 21h Asshole Enthusiast [7] ΝΤΑ You didn't disrespect him, he did it to himself. You were being a decent human. + 74 ↓ Reply 74
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    Font - TheSecondEikonOfFire • 19h That's my favorite thing about his reaction: "you're trying to make me look cheap!" - no, you did that yourself + 23
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    Font - No-Net8938 21h OP, next time, if there is one, simply state: that is Not a tip, it is a gift to our server. Or, simply hand the gift to the server directly and discreetly. Give a gift, it is non taxable, is not meant to be shared, but could be at the server's discretion, and make it cash. BEST OF IT ALL, OP from servers past, present and future. AGAPE ... + Reply 45 45
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    Font - CestBon_CestBon • 18h Or, if the restaurant is big enough, ask at the front desk if you can leave a tip on your own credit card. Just say you are going to the bathroom, excuse yourself, and take care of it. I do it all the time with my father in law who is notoriously cheap about tipping. + 45 G
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    Font - fbombmom__. 21h Partassipant [1] NTA. I think it's a boomer thing. My dad rarely tips, and if he does, it's like $5. I guess when he was born in 1948, $5 would have been generous, lol. He's been told how embarrassing it is that he tips so little, but doesn't change. We always pay the tip when he takes us out. He gets miffed, but whatever. If your FIL is embarrassed, that means he knows he's wrong and is doing it anyway. Reply + 43
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    Font - Daisho • 19h is a boomer thing, because decades ago, in Canada, tipping was not seen as mandatory since we actually paid our servers at least minimum wage. As Canadian culture has become more Americanized over the years, our tipping standards have increased to be more like America as well. ... 23
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    Font - Beautiful-Act6485 • 21h NTA. If the server did their job well and you felt they deserved a tip...then they deserved the tip. It is what it is. Now if you had said the server was awful and you guys were getting your own drinks, clearing your own table, having to chase down a server to get help, etc. then I could see him being mad you left a nice tip. But if all was well and the server deserved it...a tip should have been left. Reply 21 +
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    Rectangle - Queasy-Chip9274 • 21h Ross, is that you? + Reply 13 +
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